Falling in love with the wrong partner.

Being in a relationship with the wrong person can be so exhausting because only one person puts in his/his heart, time and energy. There’s nothing mutual and it is time wasting. “The wrong person” will cheat on you, lie to you, use you, he/she hardly calls, texts…you do all the calling all the time...

It takes a determined mind to come out of such relationship because it’s like a trap. “The wrong person” tends to be very manipulative and pretentious. They are very good story tellers, they hurt you so much, and they tell you stories like “I did that because I had a bad childhood”. They simply never take responsibility for their actions.

A times we ask ourselves why do people often stay in this kind of relationship? The answer would be... most people can’t just stand being alone, or they look for the wrong qualities in a partner, many people place so many priorities on good looks, power and material things. I believe there’s more to a person than a blue eyes, pink lips, cute smile, and working in a big company or having a fleet of car. 

We should learn to differentiate what we see in movies and read in novels, from reality…that’s why they are called make believe. The most important quality to look out for in a partner is –Personality. Personality encompasses a lot of what makes a person. Everyone will grow old physically, but a great personality will remain unchanged with age.

   

  In addition, some people continue dating the wrong person thinking they can change the person. No man has the ability to change another person, only God can work in a man’s life, heart and completely change the person. Therefore people should stop wasting their time  in a fruitless relationship thinking they can change their partners.

I believe if you love yourself, know your worth and know that you deserve better. You wouldn’t date or continue dating someone that tosses you around and treats you anyhow. Love makes the world go round, but it all begins with you. If you want others to treat you well, treat yourself well first. If you seek love from another, fall in love with yourself first.

It is beautiful to fall in love but it is amazing to fall for the right person. Cheers and all the best!!